It started in 1985. In Poland.
But what if it hadn’t?
What if it was elsewhere?
We fled communism for Munich and awaited our visas to Australia. What if we got them?
In 1989 we moved to Chicago, but if we didn’t?
Evanston found us in 1993; friendships still over a decade strong were forged. Tearstained pillow cases established their home in the middle school years. What if we had never arrived?
1998. Mexico. An incident occurred that would forever change every aspect of how I perceived the world and myself. Who would I be if we had gone to the Bahamas instead?
In 2003 I chose the University of Minnesota over my first choice of Fordham University in NYC for love. If I had gone to New York I would not have met and married my husband.
6 years ago in 2006 I graduated early and started my job at the Museum. I was going to go to Law School, what if I had?
Had a misstep been taken. A different plane boarded. Why the possibilities are limitless. Of who I would be, of who you would be. Of how we would cross. Grain against grain. Smoothed to glass or swept to sea.
Each of these moments strung together, seemingly meaningless infinite strands of chance encounters braided, entwine us. Hold us close. The edges may fray. You may tug and pull and attempt to unravel. But once bound we have forever made an impression. Whether fate or chance unknown.
I have known you and you me.
Our paths may change, the stream will flow into the river into the ocean, the current carrying us apart. But you two have made your way into the world, born by me, by chance, by fate, by divine power. With me forever.
And when I asked of you to hold a hand and you held his, I knew that you will have your own path. That you will travel. Together. Alone. Without me.
We will each make our own way through the crevices and mountain tops. Traverses narrow and deep holding our dreams in sweaty palms.
Clinging to hopes, wishes unwished, loves unloved.
I don’t know what I believe in, but I believe in you.
For as long as we are together, let’s make it better.
I have also used this as a contest entry for a full sponsorship to the Type-A Parent Conference from Brica. Brica’s Motto is ‘Making Together Better’ and you can find Brica on both Facebook and Twitter.